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23. Bostonian. The smell of fresh grass, stars on a clear night. Ocean air. Books and a warm bed. Writing. Pizza, burgers and pasta.

8carpileup:

midwest-monster:

lorrainelola:

My friend wrote this article on Reddit and it is now going viral everywhere. She really did nail it. Reblog the shit out of this and spread it like wildfire!

I’ve been saying this for AGES. So I’m a mental health professional, right? I was educated on the signs of abuse and I’ve been in contact with domestic abuse victims. I’ve had several people argue that “well, people just don’t understand BDSM.” No, YOU just don’t understand BDSM. When Anastasia uses the safe word in their “room of pain”, Christian is upset and says “my wife fucking safe-worded me”. UM. The entire purpose of the safe word is to make sure that both parties stay SAFE, and guilt-tripping someone for using the safe word defeats the whole fucking purpose. Anastasia has no identity of her own…not only does Christian control every aspect of their relationship, he controls her diet and her exercise regimen. He buys the company she gets a job at so he can keep an eye on her at work, and then blows up at her in office, in front of coworkers. She goes out for a drink with a friend, and Christian flies there to tell her that he’s upset about it. Where is her individual identity? She has none. She is an object to Christian and she is not allowed to displease him. When she gets pregnant, how does he react? Violently, and then he storms out of the house.

Their relationship is a total nightmare and it’s everything that a woman needs to keep an eye out for in her partner.

EXACTLY.

Defend healthy BDSM. Not this fucking bullshit

(via poetryinmysilence)